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Introducing your Pregnancy to the Workplace
Written by Rebecca Amesbury, VP of Marketing and Communications at SkillStorm
Pregnancy can be the most exciting time in your life thus far, but it also carries it’s own stress, especially for those women that work in an office environment throughout their pregnancy. There are quick and simple rules to get you through these times, but no matter how professional you are going in to this situation, think of your pregnancy as a warm up to motherhood, a phase when like it or not, you’re not always in control. The 2 keys to managing your pregnancy at work, just like every other part of your career, is planning and learning how to get back on track when your plan flies out the window!

I am seven months pregnant with my first child and while I’m certainly no expert, I hope this blog can point out some of the mistakes and lessons I have learned that may help others in the same spot.
What to do when you find out:
1. Celebrate!
2. Read your HR docs. Consider everything from time off for doctor’s appointments (you should plan on approximately 2 doctor’s visits per month until month 7 or 8 when they can double; by the last month, you’ll be looking at weekly visits) to maternity leave rules, short-term disability and dress code (as crazy as it sounds, somewhere along the way, you’ll probably need to give up on heels.)
3. Come up with your plan. It may change as you progress, but it’s the basis of how you will manage your pregnancy and early motherhood. You’ll need to take into consideration your own career goals, your finances, the help you have from family or friends and the detail you learned from your HR documents. With this plan, you should know if and when you will return to work, when you would like to tell your boss (see the next point for more help) and how your workload will be managed while you’re gone (you may want to make suggestions to your employer, but don’t set your mind to your plan – the company may have other ideas).
4. Tell Your Boss. When to tell is probably the most heated debate amongst newly pregnant women. The general advice is to not tell anyone until you are 12 weeks along. The idea is based on the probability of miscarriage lessening every week, but realistically, if you are unfortunate enough to suffer a miscarriage, you’ll need time off to recuperate emotionally and perhaps physically also, so that will probably bring the pregnancy to light anyway. In addition, if you suffer morning sickness it can range from very light and infrequent nausea to daily debilitating sickness. And that’s hard to hide!
I would suggest holding off on telling as long as you can, build your plan on what to say and how, and tell when the time is right for you.
How to tell your boss
Luckily you have your plan! Schedule a meeting with your boss. Be frank and not emotional. Your boss will be very happy for you I’m sure, but this can be a good time to show that being pregnant won’t affect your level of professionalism. You want to come across as if this is something you’re taking in your stride. Tell him/you’re your due date and mention that you have a plan for maternity leave and the best way to handle work load at that time. Ask if he/she would like to hear it now or speak about it at a later date. If it’s later, set another appointment, you don’t want to catch anyone off guard by leaving earlier than they anticipate. Finally, ask if they mind if you tell coworkers or if they would prefer to break the news themselves. Again, this shows your level of professionalism has not been affected at all.
5. Tell your coworkers. Share your news however you feel comfortable, but don’t gush. This is so easy to write and so hard to do! Try to think of people that aren’t having any luck getting pregnant, or those coworkers that have no interest in babies. You don’t want people avoiding you because of your pregnancy, and those that are interested will ask.
6. Contact HR. You reviewed your documents, but your HR professional may know of programs that are offered by your healthcare provider. This is also a good time to ask any questions about wardrobe, maternity leave, returning to work and short term disability benefits (always find out whether there is a pay back in the case you cannot return to work for unforeseen circumstances).
7. Go for a haircut. OK, maybe this isn’t a business priority, but believe me you need to decide what to do for color now. In addition, further along in your pregnancy, you may find yourself wishing for a new look. This is the worst time to chop off your hair, so avoid temptation by getting a cut or trim now, with time for it to grow back!
Back to work
When the news is out, no matter how professional you try to remain, you may find that coworkers put you in awkward situations. My next blog will cover working together from both points of view: what to say or not to say to a pregnant coworker and how to deal with awkward situations at work when pregnant. Until then, congratulations on your pregnancy, I hope this blog has helped; if you have any questions or suggestions for another blog topic, please leave me a comment.